If you are a strong, ambitious woman that is also seeking balance in your self-care, whether you are married or single, kids or no kids…this blog and the tips below are for you. Ambitious femininity doesn’t have ONE definition… You can have a career, a partner, and/or kids, but your self-care and knowing who you are as a woman is key to your wellness.
I’m a boss chick who attracts boss clients—period. It took me a long time to own that because I used to downplay myself, feeling guilty for shining too bright or achieving too much. I've always been so humble, but my ambition would trigger the hell out of people! Often times, even the people closet to me.
For those new here, I’m a former ATL salon owner turned solo artist, and I still draw in ambitious clients—high-level corporate leaders, multiple entrepreneurs working with A level celebrities, you name it. Majority of my clientele includes brand owners, directors, doctors, poets, tv producers, attorneys, educators, and even women who fly in just to have me do their hair. This isn’t about bragging because none of that means anything honestly; it’s about energy. I’ve realized that we attract what and who we are, even in our careers. In my earlier days, I used to be triggered by some of these types of clients, but I grew to see the things we have in common and the stories that we share.
Over a year ago, I made the choice to close my 10-year haircare brand to focus on my own journey, and it’s given me more than I could’ve imagined. Entering my “Balanced Girl Era” has been transformative—learning to blend my career ambitions with my feminine energy, self-care, and family life. It’s about embracing all sides of me: the God lover, the driven professional, the loving wife, the nurturing mother, the twerker, and the woman who knows that she deserves her own care. This era isn’t just a phase; it’s a healing lifestyle that prioritizes balance, wholeness, and a deep connection to who I am and who God created me to be.
My Journey into my "Balanced Girl Era"
For years, I poured everything into my career—hustling, overworking, all under the belief that
it was for my family. I was an ultimate people pleaser, often going above and beyond. But the more I achieved and focused on everyone else (work and home life included), the more I felt
disconnected from the softer, more intimate parts of myself. I wore my ambition like armor, but deep down, I craved balance—a life where I could be both a creative entrepreneur and
a woman who embraces her femininity, the ability to slow down and still feel peace. I didn’t even realize I deserved that…life can make you think you're doing things for the right reasons, when sometimes, it's just old trauma driving you. I'm learning to accept all sides of me, and knowing that my ambitious is a gift and being soft and deserving rest is also okay.
If you’re like me—a boss chick craving the balance to embrace more self-care and healing—here are my lessons that I've learned on my journey to balance. Take what resonates.
Tips for Blending Career Ambitions with Femininity:
Tip 1: Redefine Success on Your Own Terms
The first step to balance is understanding that success doesn't have to look one way. For me, success is about fulfillment in all areas of life, having an amazing connection with my husband and children, having financial freedom to explore the world, having close relationships with genuine people, and trusting my own inner voice & connection with God. It's not just about professional achievements but also about how I feel as a mother, wife, and woman. Take time to redefine what success means to you. Step out of the box that have been defined for us as women! Is it working fewer hours but with more impact? Is it having the ability to work from anywhere? Do you like to ensure you are connecting with a certain demographic? Own your definition and let it guide your decisions. Trust the outcome…trust God. My constant reminder lately has been "Faith without works..."
Tip 2: Set Boundaries and Stick With Them
This is often the hardest part. Whether it's in your career, personal life, or self-care, setting clear boundaries is essential. I used to say yes to everything, afraid of rejection or the financial ramifications if I said no, even with those I worked with closely. Now, I prioritize what truly matters and say no to anything that doesn't align with my balanced life. This has allowed me to protect my energy and ensure I have time for what nourishes me—whether that's family time, a quiet moment to myself, or pursuing a passion project.
Tip 3: Embrace Your Feminine Energy
Balancing boss life with femininity means embracing the qualities that make us powerful women and not feeling GUILTY for it—intuition, creativity, nurturing, compassion, and grace. I've learned that these are the very qualities that make us extraordinary leaders, partners, and mothers. Culture can often put women on the back burner and say that we are simply here to take a backseat. This doesn’t take from any man, this ADDS to it and creates the full picture. You can love and respect the men in our lives while simultaneously having our own thoughts, voice, and ambitions. Let your femininity shine in everything you do, from how you approach your work to how you nurture your relationships.
Tip 4: Incorporate Self-Care as Non-Negotiable
Self-care isn't a luxury; it's a necessity. In my Balanced Girl Era, I've made self-care a non-negotiable part of my routine. This means carving out time for activities that fill me up—whether it's a long bath, journaling, reading, painting, watching movies that make me laugh/cry or documentaries that fill me up, meditation, or simply sitting in silence with a cup of tea. Self-care is what keeps me grounded and connected to myself, allowing me to show up fully in all areas of my life. The rest it gives me helps me to be present at work and present with those I love.
Tip 5: Nurture Your Relationships with Intention
Balancing family/friend life with career ambitions requires intentionality. I've learned to be present with my family, setting aside dedicated time to connect with my husband and kids. This might mean unplugging from work at a certain hour or planning special activities that allow us to bond and discover more common interests. It's about quality over quantity—being fully present in the moments you have with your loved ones.
Balanced Girl, you DESERVE to have it all:
Don't let anyone tell you that you have to choose between being a boss and embracing your femininity. Media and history can sometimes make us believe you can’t have it all, and I REFUSE to embrace that idea. You can be powerful in your career and gentle at home. You can chase your dreams and nurture your relationships. You deserve to have it all—on your terms. The box wasn't created for you.
Embrace Your Whole Self: The Balanced Girl Era is about embracing all parts of yourself. You are a multi-dimensional woman with many facets. Celebrate your strength, your softness, your ambition, and your nurturing side. Let all these aspects coexist because they can ALL exist at once.
Sending you much love and encouragement because we GOT this,
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